When I attended the Laura Ingalls Wilder Pageant in De Smet earlier this summer, I was struck by its lively portrayal of Laura Ingalls Wilder in 1879. The young actress who played the role presented her as energetic in her enjoyment of the prairie, the railroad camp, the Surveyors’ House, her friends, and all the small joys of her life, capturing the essential enthusiasm of the heroine of Wilder’s By the Shores of Silver Lake (1939). The young actress who played Laura’s sister Mary did not imbue her character with the same levels of excitement—rightly so, for Mary was still recovering from a life-altering illness. But as Wilder’s readers know, Mary was always “a little lady” to Wilder’s tomboy. The two sisters were “so temperamentally different,” Wilder wrote in 1917, that when they played together “all operations were stopped while they argued the question” of how to do it.1 Clearly, Wilder had begun to study the differences between these characters many years before she wrote her first novel based on their lives.
In her newspaper columns for the Missouri Ruralist, Wilder often used family members to make her points. In 1917, she was exploring the importance of disciplining children fairly and trying to show that there were two distinct sides to every story. To illustrate, Wilder set out the differences between the sisters in both temperament and physical appearance. Mary, whom she referred to as “the elder of the two,” had “a sharp tongue and great facility in using it.” The younger, based on Laura, “was slow to speak but quick to act.” The older girl proudly pointed out her own “be-a-utiful golden” hair as opposed to her younger sister Laura’s “snub nose” and hair that was “just a common brown color.” Tongue-tied under the barrage of criticism and the fair-haired sister’s bossiness, Laura slapped her, for which act she was severely punished and set in a corner. “She did not cry but sat glowering at the parent who punished her,” plotting revenge when she got older.2 Most of this story is familiar to Wilder readers because the author carried her observations forward into Pioneer Girl3 and then again into Little House in the Big Woods (pp. 181–85). In each case, she continued to explore the temperamental differences between the girls while adjusting the elements of the story to fit the purposes of her narrative. In Big Woods, Laura both sobs and sulks, but she is mollified by Pa’s observation that he, too, has brown hair.
In another instance, Wilder used her newspaper column to explore a fight that she and Mary had over whether there should be sage in the stuffing of a wild goose they expected their father to bring home for Thanksgiving dinner. “Then we quarreled, sister Mary and I,” Wilder recalled, “she insisting that there should be sage in the dressing and I declaring there should not be sage in the dressing, until father returned,—without the goose!”4 In 1938, Wilder inserted the elements of this quarrel into the pages of By the Shores of Silver Lake. Rather than Thanksgiving, Wilder set the incident after the family’s winter alone in the Surveyors’ House followed by the nerve-wracking spring rush of land seekers. Laura argued for onions instead of sage until Ma told them to cease the silliness. “You both know we have no sage, nor onion either,” she scolded (p. 245). Wilder told her editor, daughter Rose Wilder Lane, that the quarrel showed Mary and Laura “relaxing from the strain first of loneliness and then the hard work and excitement of so many strangers underfoot.” She pointed out that the sisters had been good all during this difficult time, which “was not natural, especially for Laura.” Thus, Wilder concluded, “I thought it very natural that they should snap when at last the letdown came.”5
As an author, Wilder was always thoughtful about the portrayal of her characters, whom she had considered often through the years. In her editing of the earliest version of Little House in the Big Woods in 1930, Lane eliminated all instances of conflict between Mary and Laura.6 But Wilder reinstated the temperamental differences between the two personalities in Big Woods and the novels that followed, and the interplay between the sisters proved to be crucial to the depth and authenticity of the Little House series.
―Nancy Tystad Koupal
- Wilder, “Let Us be Just,” Sept. 5, 1917, in Laura Ingalls Wilder, Farm Journalist: Writings from the Ozarks, ed. Stephen W. Hines (Columbia: University of Missouri Press, 2007), p. 121.
- Ibid., pp. 121–22.
- Wilder, Pioneer Girl: The Annotated Autobiography, ed. Pamela Smith Hill (Pierre: South Dakota Historical Society Press, 2014), pp. 47–48.
- “Thanksgiving Time,” Nov. 20, 1916, in Wilder, Laura Ingalls Wilder, Farm Journalist, ed. Hines, p. 90. Wilder also described this quarrel briefly in Pioneer Girl, p. 189, setting it in the spring of 1880 as in By the Shores of Silver Lake.
- Wilder to Lane, Feb. 15, 1938, file 194, box 13, Rose Wilder Lane Papers, Herbert Hoover Presidential Library, West Branch, Iowa.
- Nancy Tystad Koupal, ed., Pioneer Girl: The Path into Fiction (Pierre: South Dakota Historical Society Press, 2023), p. 6.



On Sunday morning, Cindy and I ate breakfast at the De Smet post of the American Legion’s Pancake Breakfast. It had been a long, long time since I had attended a pancake feed, and we relished our pancakes and sausages and indulged ourselves in a final long talk, spending an hour and a half drinking coffee and comparing notes. As I drove over to take one last look at the society exhibit, I passed one of my favorite buildings—the Kingsbury County Courthouse. This stately structure never fails to stop me in my tracks for a longer look, and this time was no exception. With the sun scouring my eyes, I hopped from my car to take pictures. For me, the courthouse always evokes the Charles Ingalls who is least-known to Wilder’s readers—the man who dedicated a good portion of his life to civic duties as justice of the peace and deputy sheriff.
























