As readers of Laura Ingalls Wilder’s books know, courting was a special time in Wilder’s life—a time when the set of her clothes and the condition of her hair were especially important to the young Laura Ingalls. The same is true in Pioneer Girl, where Wilder lovingly describes her poke bonnet, her brown poplin, and her lunatic fringe, among other fashion details. We see Laura primping before the mirror and sewing items of clothing with care. Almanzo’s perspective during the same time period, meanwhile, is left pretty much to the reader’s imagination. Did he primp and preen before he went to visit Miss Ingalls, or was that solely a woman’s prerogative?
One of the joys of newspaper research is the light it sheds on the habits and customs of people in different eras. In the course of our work with Pioneer Girl, we came across a wonderful column in the Decorah Iowa Republican of December 8, 1876, that illuminates the ritual of courting as a man experienced it:
We have in our family [at] present a young man who is deeply, we trust successfully, engaged in going a-courting. . . . When Sunday afternoon arrives it is plain to see that something is about to happen. Our young man is fidgety and non-communicative and cannot sit in one place half a minute at a time. He is continually interviewing his watch and comparing it with the old eight-day, coffin-shaped clock in the corner. He looks in the glass frequently, and draws his forehead locks first back and then forward, and combs them up and puts them down, and is unsatisfied with the effect throughout.
The smell of bay rum and bergamot is painfully apparent. When he shakes out his handkerchief musk is perceptible. His boots shine like mirrors. There is a faint odor of cardamom seeds in his breath when he yawns. He smooths his . . . mustache with affectionate little pats, and feels his . . . side whiskers continually. . . . He tries on all his stock of neckties without finding just the thing; and he has spasms of brushing his coat, that commence with violence and last till one grows nervous for fear the broadcloth will never be able to stand it. . . .
And at seven, he sets forth, clean and tidy from top to toe, looking precisely as if he had just stepped out of a bandbox.
The image is so vivid that one can almost feel the anxiety of a young man like Almanzo as he worried over his appearance.
While allowing that a woman had the same issues in getting ready to greet a suitor, the writer was more sympathetic with the young man, who had to “walk up in the cannon’s mouth” of a young woman’s family, “consisting of father, and mother, and grandmother, and maiden aunt, and half a dozen brothers and sisters, and inquire in a trembling voice: ‘Is Miss Arabella at home?’” Poor Almanzo.
The Republican column is not just entertaining; it is an invaluable historical resource that provides important clues about male grooming habits during the period, and it also gives modern readers a better appreciation for Almanzo Wilder’s perseverance in courting Miss Ingalls.
Nancy Tystad Koupal
Love it! Thanks so much for sharing this little insight! :o)
Love this article! What a great insight into the male’s experience! Thanks for posting!
Love it! I always wondered what kinds of things folks used for fresh breath back then!
Thanks for sharing this enlightening column from the past. I can just smell the bergamom and musk, feel the silk ties slipping through his nervous fingers refusing to tie just so, and see him patting smooth his mustache. My sweet husband runs through this routine with me each Sunday morning before going to church!
I wonder how the young man felt that was being written about? I’ll bet in a town that size everyone knew the author of the article, and thus knew the young man being discussed. This would certainly add to his anxiety!
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What a wonderful sympathetic and humorous article! Plus Almanzo had to get the horses and the buggy ready for courting as well. Wonder what he used in his hair — looking at photographs, it sure made it shiny.
They had hair pomades and oils, Madagascar oil was popular and helped with hair growth, they loved it so much they had to make special guards for fabrics of chair and sorts so the oil wouldn’t soil the furniture.
What does “Godey’s Lady’s Book” advise regarding such advances?